Love and marriage

We often hear it said that relationships require work. And maybe they do. And maybe the worst relationships require the most work. But love is not work. Not at all. Love is easy.

I’ll try if I want to

Can I try to love someone? Try to tell the truth? Try to improve myself? Well, of course I can try, but trying is failing. Nothing I try to do returns the effort.

First off, stop trying

Can we try to be kind, try to be virtuous, try to be happy? Well, yes. Trying is always an option. But what has trying ever accomplished? Turn away from the man whose best counsel is to try harder. He’s an emissary of miserableness.

if….

If you do what you love to do, no effort is involved. No trying. No planning. No expectations. No regrets. Your purpose in life is simply to do what you love to do.

Happiness now

We cannot try to be happy. In this endeavour, trying is failing. What we can do is investigate why we are unhappy, to see how our dream of happiness depends on some person, situation or circumstance. Dependency is misery. True happiness comes from within. It already is.