I cannot demand that the world be peaceful when I myself am full of dread, or embark on a quest for love when I hate myself. Let me deserve what I ask for.
We are exhorted to make a choice, pick a side, don a colour, follow a leader, take a stand. But isn’t the penny in my pocket two-sided? Am I not headed and tailed?
Maturity is not reacting to the up and down-ness of things. It is the ability to take what happens in stride.
When a mature man gives you his attention, you have his whole body. Have you noticed that? When his head moves, his body moves with it.